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7 Things that are the Most irritating for an introvert.

These “extroverted” habits are alienating, unpleasant, and even irritating when it comes to introverts.

Introverts are accustomed to being the odd ones out in social situations. The unfortunate but true fact is that when you’re an introvert living in a world designed for extroverts, you’re going to be misunderstood by others around you.

Many “extroverted” habits are strange, unpleasant, and even downright aggravating to introverts, just as some parts of introverted behavior make no sense to extroverts (for example, our intense desire for alone time), and many aspects of extrovert conduct make no sense to introverts.

Although not all introverts would agree — after all, we are all unique – here are seven things that many of us “silent ones” find incomprehensible. If any of my points resonate with you, realize that you are not alone.

Things that Introverts find difficult to comprehend

1. When someone believes that being alone is tedious.

To be clear, I adore my outgoing and socially active pals. Their ability to bring me out of my shell is something I appreciate, and I’ve had more good experiences with them than I have with anyone else. Even when they don’t make any sense to me, I still adore them. However, they rapidly become bored when they are alone, which is the most perplexing thing they do.

They cannot remain alone for even a few minutes at a time. To give you an example, one of my most outgoing friends phones me every time she’s traveling alone in her car, whether she’s commuting to work or running errands. If her husband and children leave for the day, I receive another phone call — and, more often than not, an invitation to hang out. Once, after purchasing her own home and intending to live alone, she experienced a breakdown after only one week and moved in with a roommate. It was just too lonely in the empty house.

Because I am an introvert, this is the polar opposite of what I would expect. I look forward to my alone time. When my family leaves for the afternoon, I secretly squeal with delight! When you’re an introvert, being around other people all of the time is the worst kind of misery. You need isolation just as much as you need food and drink. There’s absolutely no way we’d be able to be happy and sane if we didn’t have it.

Being alone is not only dull for extroverts, but it may also feel like the ultimate punishment for them. Introverts, on the other hand, find this incomprehensible.

2. People who chat for hours on end

Your shift has finally come to a close, and you hurry to the break room to grab some microwave popcorn and take a quick break from work. But, the moment Sheryl from Accounting enters the room, everything changes. Oh noes, here we go again. It’s finally here. As she approaches the microwave, you wish your Orville Redenbacher’s would hurry up and finish the job.

Sheryl is a talkative extrovert who never seems to shut up. And, as far as we’re concerned, it’s seldom about anything particularly intriguing. Suppose you were given a lecture on the theoretical origins of black holes or the historical circumstances that contributed to our current contentious political atmosphere. You’d be delighted to sit through it. However, all of this is just meaningless small talk when it comes to extroverts like Sheryl. Sheryl breaks down her weekend’s activities, play by tedious play.

Without a doubt, we’ve all been guilty of long conversations at some point – even introverts have their favorite subjects about which they get enthused. However, among introverts, this is a very uncommon occurrence. We tend to be word minimalists, and we only talk when we have something of genuine value to convey.

Verbally prolific people have a difficult time understanding us “silent ones,” so we have a difficult time understanding them. Who can generate that much linguistic energy regularly? Oh, that’s right. Sheryl.

3. Popularity is a third factor to consider.

Just because you are an introvert does not rule out the possibility of making friends or being well-liked. It also does not rule out the possibility of possessing good social abilities. When I mention “popularity,” I’m not referring to that someone is popular.

While growing up, I saw a distinct contrast between my extroverted friends and myself – they all appeared to be overly concerned with how other people saw them. As a result, the late hours in our sleeping bags were spent debating who was “popular” at school and who wasn’t, what jeans to buy, and what bands we should be listening to. According to common belief, all because these elements provided you with something quite special: popularity.

As an introvert, their obsession with becoming popular didn’t make any sense. To be sure, I wanted friends as well, and I surely hoped that the cute boy who complimented my work in English class would take an interest in me as well. My need for social standing, on the other hand, was not the same as theirs.

As we reflect on the situation, it is understandable because introverts tend to have tiny social circles — and we are quite content with that. We’d rather focus our limited social energy on a small number of important relationships rather than chasing after fame and fortune. In fact, for many introverts, the concept of “popularity” isn’t even on their list of priorities.

4. Making phone calls rather than text

When it comes to communicating with someone, making a phone call is often the quickest and most effective method. (Can you picture trying to text 911 at the same time? (Stay still, my trembling hands!) There’s also something comforting about hearing a familiar voice, especially after a particularly difficult day. But, on the other hand, phone calls may be excruciating for many introverts, especially those unexpected “just calling to catch up!” calls.

In addition to requiring small talk (and without the benefit of visual clues), phone calls are also exceedingly inconvenient and interrupt the conversation. When a phone call comes in out of nowhere, you have no time to prepare mentally, which is critical for introverts who need time to think. A daydream, a state of flow, or frolicking through our inner landscapes are all possibilities for the introverted brain at any given time in the day. Switching gears and being “on” socially requires conscious effort on one’s part.

On the other hand, an SMS politely awaits the recipient’s response. Aside from that, because of how our brains are wired, introverts tend to feel more comfortable expressing themselves through writing.

5. Large parties, networking gatherings, and loud restaurants, bars, and nightclubs are prohibited.

These surroundings are “fun” and “interesting,” and they might even be “energizing” to extroverts. I’ve never met an extrovert who turned down an invitation to a party.

However, this is not the case for introverts – and it is not because we are party poopers (okay, maybe a little). Extroverts have different neural pathways than introverts, which means that noisy and wild gatherings are annoying and exhausting for introverts. It’s time for the dreaded introvert hangover.

If I want to go dancing in a club, I have to be in the right frame of mind, probably just once every ten years.

6. Taking pleasure in the limelight

Some people relish the opportunity to be the center of attention. When they are in front of a group of people, giving a presentation or talk, they are completely at ease. They are prone to cracking jokes or acting in ways that bring attention to themselves, whether through movement, speech, or clothes. They can’t sit still and wait for their chance to talk in a conversation. These individuals are most likely not introverts.

Instead of taking the lead, introverts prefer to remain in the background and listen instead of speaking. This suggests that introverts cannot be excellent actors, speakers, and leaders; rather, it is to state that we are likely to be doing so for reasons other than attention, with attention being only a result.

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7. Having a good time with friends only to pass the time

“Of course, I’m going to the party!” exclaimed one of my extroverted acquaintances. “Is there anything else I could do tonight?” According to introverts, this line of reasoning is absurd. There are a plethora of other things we might do with our evening: watch movies, play video games, or try a new cuisine we found on Pinterest.

To be clear, introverts are capable of engaging in social activities. We, too, require strong relationships and deep ties; otherwise, we will suffer from loneliness, just like everyone else. After all, it is human nature to want to have a sense of belonging and connection with others. If the alternative is between socializing for the sake of passing the time and sitting at home with a good book, introverts will almost always choose the latter option.

When introverts get together, we do so with a specific goal in mind. We want to make a friend, establish a business connection, or meet the person who will be our life partner. However, our primary focus is on real-life human interactions and deep discourse.

Anything less than that is simply incomprehensible.

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